For the Love of All Things Human

When a parent is mentally ill, a degree of chaos permeates every aspect of family life. Children are terrorized in myriad ways. They fear for their very survival. And in a desperate attempt to make sense of the non-sensical, children figure they must have done something to cause the adult(s) to behave the way they do. Denial becomes one of the most prominent defense mechanisms because it enables survival.

When we awaken to truth, our hearts break wide open, as we grapple with making sense of the non-sensical. Profound grief comes with accepting the truth that our lives were literally endangered because the adult(s) couldn’t even take care of themselves. Desperation characterizes the many ways one tries to cope. 
There is no way out of the turmoil other than slogging through the pain of what never was to be. Everything is about the person who is ill. The world revolves around them, and a heavy price is paid by those closest. Until a door or window opens or one’s heart cracks open to allow us to see things for what they truly are…

What is happening in our country right now is nothing less profound. I am reminded of a book written by Anne Wilson Schaef many years ago: When Society Becomes An Addict.

Knowing that recovery is possible, today I choose hope that an opportunity for an en masse awakening is upon the citizens of the United States of America.

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2 thoughts on “For the Love of All Things Human

  1. Thanks Laura…So profound and relevant to the issues that plague our culture today. We need to get to know one another on a deeper level and not convict others based on stereotypes that are hyped by the media. People are not issues. Even our belief systems are not issues. We need good people, who look past the hype and are willing to dig in and who will truly solve the problems that we face today. Our beliefs may guide our ideas, but they do not need to dictate them to the point where we become inflexible and not even entertain the concept that our idea may have a few flaws.

    I believe there are far too many talented, smart and compassionate people who can see past the ‘black and white’ culture promoted by the media and politics. These are people who we need to tap in to solve problems. They see past the obvious — and want to get to the root and do real work, not work that promotes their agenda or self-interest.

  2. Well seen and well said! I too see the application of When Society Becomes an Addict. Of course, the beauty of all challenge is its potential to break things wide open toward vast improvement. As an optimist, and a student of history, the way is marked by all measure of difficulty and yet somehow seems to steadily progress. Thanks Laura!

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